Print Friendly, PDF & Email


Tantrums are common and normal from the age of 1-2. Ensure that your child has enough rest, food and water throughout the day to avoid tantrums. It is best to ignore small tantrums and, when the tantrum ends, to then speak to your child about what they were feeling and how else they could have done things. Try to stop their feelings getting out of control by helping them to relax, talking about why they are upset, or distracting them with a toy. It is important that you stay calm and in control.

  • These happen due to your toddler not understanding the world, not being able to achieve something, or not being able to communicate through speaking.
  • They are often caused by parents forgetting to communicate with their toddlers. For example, your baby might be playing happily and you pick her up to dress her without warning. She can only communicate that she is upset through a tantrum. Try to communicate with your child before you do things, and you will be amazed at how she responds to basic instructions.
  • These happen as a result of your toddler finding it difficult to communicate through speech.
  • There is not much you can do about these tantrums except encourage your toddler to use words. In time, this type of tantrum will pass.
  • Be aware that your toddler will find other ways to communicate with you. By looking for these signs, you can help prevent some tantrums.
  • Temper tantrums are a learned behaviour. Your toddler has learned that if she makes a big enough fuss, you will give in and give her what she wants.
  • This behaviour needs to be corrected.
  • The key to correcting temper tantrums is to use a calm and consistent approach.
  • You cannot talk your child out of a tantrum. Ignore the tantrum until it ends, and do not make eye contact with her as this will probably to make the tantrum last longer.
  • Find an activity to distract yourself – anything to show your child that you are not interested in her tantrum.
  • Each time your toddler has a temper tantrum, the protest and actions will last for a shorter time until she realises you have become a strong, calm and consistent parent. She will then stop testing the boundaries on a daily basis.
  • Hunger tantrums occur when a toddler suddenly gets really hungry and becomes short-fused and upset with everything around him.
  • They are more common in boys and are usually close to a regular mealtime.
  • Ignore the tantrum and get his meal ready as quickly as possible.
  • Beware of giving a snack as a quick fix as he will probably not eat his meal and will soon be hungry again.
  • If these tantrums are common, make mealtimes earlier for a few weeks until the developmental stage or growth spurt passes.
  • These are also often a learned behaviour – usually to fight sleep or because of boredom.
  • The child learns that if he screams enough, the parents will stop and take him out of the car/stroller.
  • The way to solve these tantrums is to ignore them and continue driving or pushing the pram until the screaming stops (this may take a while).
  • These tantrums need to be solved as, at some point, you will need to go on a long car journey and you don’t want to start a 4-hour car trip with a 2-hour screaming session!